Growing up, girls were made aware of many types of men to avoid: flakes, players and emotionally unstable rage-a-holics. These females understood that dating the aforementioned men would land them on a physiological and mental rollercoaster, or worse, as a one night stand. However, the days of the one-night stands has quietly been replaced with emotional sociopaths who are more interested in Hareminization.
What is hareminization? For the purposes of this article its defined as: men who develop a sequence of faithful women who are kept on rotation as valid relationships that resembles polygyny.
The one thing that keeps these types of charming deceptive daters in good graces is his genuine interest in pursuing credible relationships. The goal is not to sleep with the females, but rather to cultivate a true emotional connection. The pain doesn’t set in until you realize you are on an emotional merry-go-round with the man of your dreams and his two other favorite lovers.
Women selected are carefully plucked from completely different social circles.
Signs you may be under the spell of a haremizer (are as follows but are not limited to):
- You are aware of other “side” relationships between him and other women. However, you don’t get too upset about them because the dates never overlap so it wasn’t like he cheated on you.
- According to him, the other girls he dated were always crazy or lying, but you’re the one he’s in love with and she’s jealous.
- He’s a chameleon, adjusting to each relationship wholeheartedly. He seems to “mirror” everything you value in a relationship; you also share the same temperament.
- When you confront him regarding the way he treats his exes, he says something akin to “… but you’re different, I would never treat you that way.”
- He never pushes the physical aspect of your relationship but he demands an emotional attachment at a high pace and will throw a tantrum if deprived of attention or intimacy.
I’m no psychologist, but the men who practice this type of deceptive dating can be more dangerous than a man who tries to use you for your body. The haremizer wants your attention, intimacy, and heart, but the return on your investment will always be zero. Because his love is truly split into a mosaic, you will never get to actually keep Prince Charming for yourself, there will always be other girls living in his heart which result in a cold, unexplained distance to keep your Happily Ever After just beyond the moat. My advice- Steer clear, or pay the price.
